I wanted to do a short series of posts called “For Brides” to help people during the wedding planning process. During the planning of your wedding, I’m sure you will have questions and want some advice. I have been there and I know it can be the most exciting season of your life, as well as the most overwhelming! Enjoy and feel free to ask me questions. :)
Other Posts from the "For Brides" series:
- Wedding Day Details
- Should you hire a videographer?
- Should you hire a wedding planner?
- For Grooms: How I proposed
- What to wear for your engagement session
- First Look vs. Traditional Aisle Reveal
- Should you invest in bridal portraits
Okay brides-to-be, I'm talking to you. Some of you may have realized already that forming a wedding guest list is a difficult task. Here are some practical tips to help you decide who you should invite to your wedding.
First of all, make a list of anyone and everyone you are thinking you might invite.
For us, a helpful tool was google sheets. We wrote down family, friends from high school (a small group), friends from college, college roommates, church friends, etc. This is the list where you basically write down everyone that you've ever met in your life. When you've reached the end of your list, don't freak out at how many people you've written down. You won't be inviting all 127,203 people (unless you want to, of course).
Then, narrow down that list and categorize it according to what group the guests fit into.
We wanted to see how many people we were inviting based on certain groups. For example, did we Katie have a lot more people from Logoff than Mitchel did from Liberty? This can show you some groups of people that are getting way more attention than other groups and how to begin cutting the list in half.
Because I had been at my job for 4 months when we sent out Save the Date cards, and Mitchel had been at his job for less than 2 months, we didn't invite anyone from his work and we only invited 4 people from mine- the people I work with directly in my office. Be careful when you're inviting coworkers. You can fall into the "I invited so-and-so, which means I HAVE to invite another so-and-so," and before you know it, you've invited your whole office.
A great place to start when thinking of your guest list is your wedding venue.
We looked at how many the church and country club could comfortably hold. We made our prospective guest list first and then picked a venue. This helped us rule out venues that were much too small for around 150 people. After that, we started listing out people by the importance of them being there. We asked ourselves who absolutely needed to be there, and if we would be sad if certain people didn't attend. There are some people you can't imagine not being at your wedding, and there are others you know you probably wouldn't be as concerned about years down the road.
There may be some people that you're on the fence about. You may not be excited about them being there, but you can't bring yourself to exclude them from your wedding. In this case, we asked ourselves two questions:
- "Are they going to be apart of our lives after the wedding?" and if we thought that we wouldn't see them again in the future, then we decided not to invite them to the wedding.
- Secondly, this series of questions was helpful: "How long have I known this person? How have they influenced my life? And has my fiancé ever even met them?"
There are going to be some tough calls when you're going through the guest list, but you need to remember that this day is about you and your future spouse. It's not a day for the guests. You invite the people that are going to make you happy.